Diabetes can be a significant load to bear on a daily basis but it can also impact upon the partner of someone with diabetes.
We look at some of the issues from the perspective of the partner of someone with diabetes.
Positive actions to help your partner
If your partner has diabetes, the following positive actions can be helpful:
- Take an interest in your partner’s diabetes – but let him/her be in control
- Suggest ideas
- Allow your partner time for managing diabetes
- Be prepared for mood changes
- Discuss any problems with your sex life
- Discuss your feelings
If you have a partner who is diabetic, you’re going to have to play an active role in helping your partner manage their diabetes. Here are some tips on how to handle this new responsibility.
DEALING WITH REALITY
Firstly, you need to make peace with the fact that your partner’s diabetes is going to affect your life as well. At times, you will feel frustrated about having to bear the brunt for something that you aren’t even responsible for but, you must stay positive. Remember that it’s a bigger burden on your partner and they may probably already be feeling guilty of being a burden on their family and friends. Diabetes is a tiring and demanding disease and your partner will be able to manage it better if he/ she knows that you can deal with the pressure.
TAKE AN INTEREST
Learn all you can about diabetes. Visit the doctor with your partner for the first few consultations; ask a lot of questions and read a lot. The more you know, the more you will be equipped. This will prevent you from getting overwhelmed.
HAVE THE DIABETES TALK
Diabetes is a lifestyle disorder. It’s something that’s going to require team work. Talk to your partner and find out how they plan to manage it. Discuss the things they can manage on their own and at what point they will require your help. For example, help them with preparing healthy meals or managing chores so they can make some time to exercise. This will ensure you can help out in an effective manner.
SUPPORT DOESN’T MEAN DICTATE!
Don’t become overbearing, your partner will soon get irritated of listening to you. There are going to be days when your partner will not manage their diabetes well. No one is perfect, you also don’t manage your health perfectly every day. It’s frustrating to see a loved one harm their health, but you are not making it any better by nagging them. Instead, learn to recognise the days when your partner is tired of having diabetes and try to show some extra support on those days. Remind them that they’ve been doing a great job so far and take the load off them for a day or two.
WALK THE WALK
This one thing will go all the way if you actively participate in the lifestyle change. It’s more difficult for your partner to follow their diet and exercise if you are always binge eating junk food and watching television around them. You are going to have to make a few sacrifices. Skip the junk for healthy snacking, join a gym together, quit habits like sugar, smoking or alcohol together. This is a great opportunity for both of you to get healthy and spend quality time as well.
GIVE THEM SPACE
While it’s great to get involved, let’s not forget to give your partner their own space to manage this ailment. Getting over-involved is bad. You will end up being a negative energy for them. So, don’t force your partner into anything and don’t keep talking about the same subject all the time. Remember, you’re there to support, but the process is gradual and will require time, space and patience.
PARTNER WITH THE EXPERTS
The whole journey of managing diabetes can be made more easy and effective with the right kind of guidance and support from a diabetes expert. Lifespan provides patients unlimited consultation and 30 minutes of dedicated consultation during every visit with its Full Care Diabetes Treatment among other support services. These include: Personalised diet plan with a dietician Blood samples collected from your home Medicines at highest discount and home delivered at no extra cost Call centre support for appointment reminders and order taking for prescription refills Tele-consultation anytime with a diabetologist or dietician More than 70 per cent of Lifespan patients successfully manage their diabetes with its Full Care Treatment. If you are looking for a more complete support for diabetes, speak to a diabetes educator to know more on how you can benefit from this treatment plan.
Take an interest in your partner’s diabetes
Your partner will likely appreciate you taking an interest in their diabetes. It can be comforting for them to feel like that they are not going through it alone.
Make sure that your partner feels in control of their diabetes, but remind them that you are there to help in any way you can.
Suggest ideas to help manage diabetes
We can all benefit from a different viewpoint at times to help us make decisions.
If your partner is finding certain aspects of their diabetes management hard, you could suggest some tips to make life easier for them. Take some time to speak to your partner to see what works best for them.
Allow you partner time to manage their diabetes
Make sure your partner is not rushed or pressured when managing their diabetes. If they are testing their blood sugar, injecting or reviewing test results, it is important they are totally focused.