1. `I LOVE YOU’
Pretty obvious, but seldom said. A lot of couples lose that initial affection and romance simply because they don’t declare their love often enough. Say it like you mean it, and serve it with a hug.
2. `WE CAN WORK IT OUT’
Yes, things can get hard sometimes. There will be obstacles, but the idea is to not sulk the moment that happens or start blaming your partner for their decisions and choices. Remember, you are a team for all things in life the good and the bad, in sickness and in health.
3. `I HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING’
Familiarity does breed contempt, and the more you get used to someone, the more likely you are to stop listening to them and ignore their suggestions or opinions. Start with tuning back in to your partner, and reassure them that you’re listening. It’s not hard, and will go a long way in bringing the two of you closer.
4. `I’M CRAZY ABOUT YOU’
Even if love remains, passion, sometimes, goes missing from relationships. It’s easy to fall into a routine and forget the thrills and excitement that brought you together in the beginning. Letting your partner know you’re still crazy about himher, flirting, and paying compliments will bring the excitement back in the relationship.
5. `THANK YOU’
Even if we are aware of the little or big things that partners bring to the relationship, we may not always take the time out to be openly grateful for them. Appreciation is key to a happy relationship.
6. `I’M SORRY’
Okay, so you messed up. But your ego won’t let you admit it, because you believe the other person in the relationship will somehow get the upper hand. If you know you’ve made a mistake, say sorry. Your stubbornness isn’t worth a happy relationship and your partner will hopefully appreciate your effort at repairing a wrong.
7. `GO FOR IT!’
Encourage your partner’s choices and show them your support. Everyone has goals and how we treat each other’s ambitions is a sign of how invested we are in each oth er’s happiness. Let your partner know that you completely back their dreams and ambitions.
TALK ISN’T CHEAP
There is no substitute for communication at any given point in the relationship. Chennai-based psychologist RK Narendran says, “While we pay attention to communication elsewhere -with strangers, acquaintances, colleagues and friends -we tend to take those closest to us for granted. This is especially true in a romantic relationship, where, after a year or two, couples believe they’ve said it all and move on to the more practical aspects of living life and doing things. I get a lot of couples coming in for counselling who have no other issues except that they haven’t really spoken to each other in a long time.And the romance has flown out of the window. You need to stay connected for a relationship to work.“